Let’s get personal

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Let’s get personal, personal, I want to get personal! If you don’t get that song reference I am not sure we can be friends. But let’s move on…

Putting it out there

Putting myself ‘out there’ is something that does not come naturally, and it does. Seems like a contradiction, right? Allow me to explain. As a card-carrying introvert, it is easy for me to be open and honest with those I’m close to. In fact, there are some with whom I probably overshare, but they’re cool with it and that’s why we’re friends. Except in the case of my sisters, who are stuck with me regardless (although they seem to take my overshares totally in stride).

It is not as easy for me to talk freely with people I don’t know very well. Over on my Facebook page, I’ve done a weekly LIVE group coaching session every Wednesday evening and made myself available for 30 minutes to be a resource for anyone who views it. It’s a public page so, really, anyone could show up. If you’re trying to create a healthy lifestyle, comments or questions on these videos do not have to be asked while I’m going live – I will answer them anytime. This past Wednesday was my fourth consecutive session, which means I’ve been holding these sessions for 4 weeks already!  And the most interesting thing about these sessions so far is that I’m suddenly feeling a lot more willing to share with all of you.

Sharing valuable information

My number one priority when sharing information on social media, before clicking the ‘post’ button, is to make sure it is worth sharing. The last thing anyone needs online is another piece of useless content scrambling for their attention (looking at you, Kardashian click-bait). Your time is important, and if you’re spending that time following me on social media -which thank you, by the way! – in return, I want to give you something worthy of your time.

What am I doing to provide valuable information on a regular basis? I’m glad you asked! Each Wednesday, I create a space using Facebook Live on the Kacey Hayes Wellness page to share valuable information with you in real-time. Each day, I share various aspects of my life on Instagram, and naturally, some of those are pieces of what a healthy lifestyle can look like. This week, I shared a ‘before’ picture of myself on Instagram circa 2014 when I was fat and miserable. That picture received a lot of responses. I know for me personally, it really resonates when others are willing to show themselves in a vulnerable state, so I am 100% willing to share my ‘before’ with you. Who knew that would happen?!


I don’t know any other way to be than real and honest. When I host my Facebook live sessions, I don’t use a lot of detailed notes because I don’t like how stiff I look and sound when trying to stick to an outline. I ramble a little sometimes, but that’s my personality. As far as personal stories, there’s no point hiding the fact I was fat or pretending to be coaching people to create healthy lives just for the hell of it. The honest reason is so much more valuable. I lived all the things I now teach. I was tired and fat, decided I didn’t want to be tired and fat, and took the first step on this journey. I never stopped taking steps. I lost 20 pounds and gained strength, confidence, self-trust, boosted immunity, a true awareness of what is possible, and so. much. more. I want to show you how to do it, too. 

I’d like to share with you some of the crap I actually BELIEVED about myself, my health and my life. If some of it looks familiar, take heart. You can change it.

  • “I can’t afford to eat healthier food or go to a gym, so I can’t do anything about my health.”
  • “I don’t have time to prepare fresh and/or real ingredients.”
  • “I wouldn’t know where to start even if I wanted to.”
  • “I don’t want to tell people what I’m doing and have to put up with what they’ll say about it.”
  • “Healthy or unhealthy depends on genes… these are just the cards I was dealt.”
  • “Too much would have to change to get in good physical condition.”
  • “I’d like to do/wear/be like that, but I can’t because I’m too fat.”
  • “I don’t have the willpower to make anything last.”
  • “I shouldn’t have to give up things I love just to look a certain way.”
  • “I’m too embarrassed to find out how bad of shape I’m really in right now.”
  • “Only fitness freaks and gym rats can be healthy and fit.”
  • *walking past a hotel gym in Cancun* “People who exercise on VACATION?! What the actual fuck? That is just sad.”

Some of these are hilarious now, and some make me shake my head. I spent so much time blaming circumstance and feigning ignorance about how to change my ways instead of realizing I was not a victim but an active participant. Picking up what I’m putting down? In addition, I thought if I couldn’t show up and be immediately perfect at something like exercise, I may as well not waste my time because who wants to go make a fool of themselves? This kind of thinking is incredibly common. I get it. These thoughts have not been my reality for a long time, but I still practice thought work regularly in order to be more aware of my thoughts, and make sure I’m not acting based on old thoughts out of habit.

Your Turn

Let’s get personal – tell me the real deal about you and your life. What brought you to my website? Are you researching healthy living? What healthy living aspects are giving you grief? Whatever the case may be, don’t think you have to do it all alone. Asking for help is exactly where you want to be.

Let me know your thoughts in the comments, or as always send an e-mail to kaceyhayeswrites@gmail.com. You don’t have to listen to your excuses for as long as I did. You can create something new today.

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